2012 WINNER of the 8th Annual Business
Award
for Running a business that positively impacts the community
Awarded by Wisdom for Women International and Keep the Faith magazine
("A woman who fears the Lord shall be praised" Proverbs 30:31)
for Running a business that positively impacts the community
Awarded by Wisdom for Women International and Keep the Faith magazine
("A woman who fears the Lord shall be praised" Proverbs 30:31)
The above seems wonderful and it was
awarded to an off line so called Christian dating agency which I joined and
bitterly regret. I discovered too late
that the founder comes from a Roman Catholic background, is a member of the
Church of England and is married to a Roman Catholic. My contention is that there are many dear and
deceived people in that church. However
it is not a church, it is an organisation that purports to be a church. A church has people in it who have had a
conversion experience and they depend on Christ alone to get to heaven and
nothing and no one else. The Roman Catholic church do not accept this and the
add their own doctrines and traditions so that people trust in the church, not
Christ.
I therefore strongly recommend to anyone
that they have nothing to do with friends first. There is no account of any convertion
experience among their staff which no longer surprises me. The following is a letter I wrote to them
To Friends 1st
I joined Friends 1st,
because I was having an episode where I was tired of the web sites. I realised that joining Friends 1st
was a risk because it means handing over control of selecting profiles to
someone else, who is likely to make assumptions about what one is looking for
that may be wrong. I also specified that
I would travel up to two hours.
When the first batch
of profiles came, I was very disappointed.
It contained a large number of people well outside two hours and with
one exception, clearly not the sort of people I am looking for. I attempted contact with a few, most of whom
turned me down on seeing my profile.
This does not surprise me as I wrote one that is a clear statement of
where I stand in matters of faith and I wrote it the way I did so that I would
not be pestered by unsuitable people, so to that extent it had the desired
effect. However two of them did make
contact. One of them was charming, had
already found a man, but gave me some advice that included joining Christian
Connection and accepting what providence God brings. This I knew immediately was sound.
The other did not
have a high opinion of Friends 1st as she also had the distance
problem.
When I emailed about
how many of the profiles were outside of the distance I specified, I did not
get a response even though I emailed two or three times. Indeed in one video
Katherine advises to treat it like Christmas.
One may travel a long distance at Christmas and at the time I emailed
yet again to say one only travels once at Christmas and that is to see family
and so she was not comparing like with like and it really comes down to bread
and butter issues such as spend a lot of money on petrol traveling to meet
people for whom a relationship may or may not occur at the sacrifice of life
essentials. I think that is foolish and
I will not do it. However being ignored
on the issue was very annoying and when the second batch of profiles arrived,
once again I found that I had been ignored and when I got it down to about half
a dozen possibilities, on distance alone I decided not to contact any of them
as I could not see anything in the remaining ones that grabbed my
attention. On the contrary I saw things
to put me off.
I am not the sort be
drawn to church as an institution with coffee and cakes and the anorak
brigade. I believe in vision and passion
for it in reaching the lost and not just locally.
When I phoned the
office upon joining, some of the things I put in the profile were repeated
including what I said about the sort of person I am looking for. Being in
missions is demanding and it is no good just tolerating it as that attitude will
put a strain on any relationship and I also said that I knew couple who are
very pastoral in their gifting and the man once said to me that he had met
couples where the wife told him that missions was her husband’s thing, not
hers. In the course of the phone call I
was told that I was over thinking it.
Upon hearing that, I knew that I was being ignored. There is no such
thing as overthinking it. One has to
enter into missions eyes wide open to the consequences that will follow. I assure you that anyone who marries a vicar
knows that as the vicar’s wife there will be consequences.
I think that Friends
1st put such heavy emphasis on reassuring people that they have no
idea how to do anything else and they just go into reassuring mode and do not
really listen to people.
Then there was the
video where Katherine stated that that a Roman Catholic may not be what we
would expect. She meant this in a
positive way and that alarmed me more than anything else. It caused me to do
what I should have done and failed to do which is look at Friends 1st
more closely. I typed in Katherine’s
name and found what I was looking for about her coming from a Roman Catholic background;
being married to a Roman Catholic and sometimes she goes to his church. I bitterly regret not doing my research
first. It I had seen that, I would never have joined Friends 1st. It
proved to me that Friends 1st have no real grasp of the gospel. I should never have joined.
Christ died and rose
from the grave to pay for our sins to honour his heavenly father. In a christening there is no exorcism of original
sin as the Roman church teaches. Christ is not in the bread and wine again and
again as Rome teaches. Mary is not a go
between for us between the son and the father and there is no purgatory for it
is appointed man once to die and thereafter the judgement. Anyone who is in any
way involved in Rome needs to seriously ask if they are truly saved, for we are
warned that not all who say lord lord will be saved but only those who do his
will which is to believe in the son of God.
That means to trust in him and to trust in him alone. The Galatians were
adding circumcision to this and that was a damnable doctrine which the apostle
Paul spoke out against at great length and so now the Church of Rome also adds
to the gospel so that it is no longer the gospel and if one trusts them, then
one is in great danger of finding out too late on the day of Judgement before
the lord that one has been deceived.
Paul warned that if anyone preach any other gospel, let him be accused
and I take that very seriously indeed. I
have known people from a Roman Catholic background who are fully aware of the
errors of Rome and have renounced them when they were saved.
There was also the
hard sell of the “Finding someone Special tool kit”. From the letter you sent
and the video, it became self-evident to me that Friends 1st is
manipulative. Such a kit trades on
peoples insecurities, expecting them to part with hundreds of pounds to turn
themselves into something they can never be.
It one does want to make some improvements there are many blogs or
inexpensive books that will give very helpful advice without the massive
expense of the tool kit. I also was very
offended when I got an email about my profile that stated that my uniqueness
did not come across and that a discerning person like me knows that making a
good first impression is so important and that for £75 I could have a phone
call and an enhanced profile. I am very
good word smith. I could easily have written a more pleasing profile. Again the
use of the words, “Uniqueness and discerning” I found manipulative.
I therefore very
gladly cut my time short with your company. I am terminating my relationship
with you immediately. I will never trust anyone to make my choices again and I
will never recommend you to anyone, and it asked I will warn people off.
Yours
Faithfully
George
Falconer
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